Episode 63 – Episode Empathy and Humor: Tips for Men Supporting Menopausal Partners with Matt Hyams

Have you ever wished your partner truly “got it” when perimenopause, mental load, and everyday stress hit?

In this episode, I welcome Matt Hyams as the first male guest in Art of Badassery history, a comedian whose perimenopause videos went viral by helping women feel seen through humor, empathy, and honest communication. Matt shares how a “Tips for Men Whose Wives Are Going Through Perimenopause” video unexpectedly exploded into millions of views, how reposting and following “cosmic breadcrumbs” led to more viral wife-themed content (including Mel Robbins reposting one), and why reading comments has shown him the deeper impact. We talk about common partner mistakes, the need for patience and self-awareness, and what’s next for Matt, including a podcast with his wife, Nicole, tentatively titled “Whatever, It’s Fine.” 

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Introduction

Welcome to a unique episode of the Art of Badassery Podcast, where humor meets deep introspection. Hosted by Chief Badassery Officer Jenn Cassetta, this episode marks a significant milestone with the first male guest in the history of the show—comedian Matt Himes. Known for his viral videos on perimenopause, Matt joins Jenn to delve into how humor can bridge gaps, foster empathy, and spark crucial conversations on women’s health and beyond.

A Comedian’s Journey to Virality

During the episode, Matt shares how his hilarious portrayals of perimenopausal life resonated with countless women across the globe. His videos, initially created for comedic relief, unexpectedly became a source of empathy, validation, and laughter for many. As Matt recounts, behind the humor lies a deeper message of understanding and communication, essential elements in navigating life’s complexities.

The Importance of Empathy and Laughter

Matt discusses the delicate balance between being a partner who listens and supports while navigating the unpredictable world of relationships and hormonal changes. His humor serves as a catalyst for opening up difficult conversations, reminding us all to find lightness amidst chaos and to not take ourselves too seriously.

Invaluably Honest Reflections

Throughout the podcast, Matt reflects on personal experiences, offering insights into both the challenges and joys of living alongside hormonal shifts. His portrayal as a husband striving to understand and support his wife, Nicole, highlights the universal theme of wanting to do better and love more deeply.

Top Three Takeaways

  1. Laughter as a Tool for Connection
    Humor can disarm defensiveness and encourage more open, honest conversations about difficult topics. It’s a reminder of the power of laughter in building bridges and opening minds.
  2. Understanding Through Empathy
    Matt’s journey illustrates the importance of empathy in relationships. By stepping into someone else’s shoes, you can create a more compassionate and understanding partnership.
  3. The Role of Self-Awareness
    Both in humor and life, awareness of oneself and one’s partner plays a critical role in maintaining a healthy dynamic. Understanding personal triggers and boundaries can transform how partners interact during challenging times.

Conclusion

This episode challenges traditional norms by showcasing how humor can address serious topics and bring people closer together. Jenn Cassetta and Matt Himes illuminate the need for more inclusive conversations around women’s health, using humor as a powerful tool for change. Through their dialogue, listeners are encouraged to approach life, relationships, and personal growth with curiosity, humor, and a willingness to understand.

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About Matt Hyams

A comedy writer, comedian, content creator, and husband to an entrepreneurial perimenopausal wife, he unexpectedly found his comedy niche after a viral Instagram video offering “tips for men whose wives are going through perimenopause” gained millions of views and landed features in publications including People. Known for hilariously impersonating his wife and spotlighting the realities of relationships, entrepreneurship, mental load, and perimenopause, his content resonates deeply with women around the world who see themselves reflected in his characters. Beyond social media, he is an accomplished stand-up comedian and comedy writer whose half-hour TV pilot, On the Line, won Stage 32’s 4th Annual TV Comedy Screenwriting Competition, with satire featured in McSweeney’s and other publications. He also collaborates with brands, media outlets, and organizations to create sharp, human, and relatable conversations around relationships, wellbeing, and modern culture, while also serving as a satirical business keynote speaker and creator of the parody platform Ego-Baby and the podcast The Only Advice You Need.

Learn more about Matt Hyams at https://www.matthyams.com/

Episode 62 – Are Women Actually Safe? What you Need to Know

What if the most powerful safety tool you have is the one you already carry…your intuition?

On this episode of The Art of Badassery, Jenn Cassetta returns while editing her upcoming book, Secrets of a Sensei (releasing February 2027), for a powerful conversation about women’s safety, awareness, and reclaiming calm, confident power.

Jenn dives into the difficult reality that most assaults against women are committed by someone they know, often inside the home, referencing the shocking Gisèle Pelicot case and recent investigations into online networks where men share tactics involving drugging and assault. She also explores the connection between women’s safety, bodily autonomy, and the importance of using your voice, including at the ballot box.

But this conversation is ultimately about empowerment, not fear. Jenn shares practical tools to help women move through the world with greater confidence, including her “Sensei Scan” practice: one breath, one 360 scan, one right action. She explains how to strengthen intuition, increase situational awareness, and develop a grounded sense of personal power. You’ll also hear practical recommendations for self-defense resources, safety apps, and wearable tools like InvisiWear jewelry.

This episode is a reminder that awareness is not paranoia: it’s preparation, presence, and power.

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Introduction
Welcome to The Art of Badassery, where your chief badassery officer, Jenn Cassetta, delves into the pressing and unfortunately necessary topic of women’s safety and empowerment. Safety shouldn’t be a taboo topic or brushed under the carpet, and this episode confronts the grim realities women face worldwide while offering tools to navigate them in an empowering way. Through eye-opening statistics, self-defense techniques, and mental exercises, Jenn encourages listeners to elevate their awareness and ensure their safety and autonomy.

The Hard Truth About Women’s Safety
Jenn begins by confronting the unsettling reality of violence against women, a global pandemic that requires vigilance as well as action. She highlights alarming statistics and real-life stories, urging listeners to consider the pervasiveness of this violence in both digital and real-world spaces. Jenn discusses the myths surrounding women’s safety and debunks the misconception that danger only exists outside the home, emphasizing that often, the greatest threats come from familiar faces.

Awareness as a Tool of Empowerment
To shift from fear into empowerment, Jenn introduces concepts to heighten awareness and confidence. Emphasizing the importance of intuitive living, she guides readers through the “Sensei Scan,” a technique that encourages mindfulness of surroundings and sharp intuition. With strategies like the Sensei Scan, individuals can transform their perception, moving through the world with calm confidence and readiness to act wisely and effectively in any situation.

Practical Safety Skills and Tools
Apart from mental strategies, Jenn stresses the importance of practical safety skills. Knowing self-defense moves is empowering not only physically but mentally, enhancing one’s confidence in navigating the world. Additionally, technology, like safety apps and wearables, plays a significant role in enhancing personal security. Jenn suggests tools like InvisiWear Jewelry, which function as both fashion accessories and emergency alert systems.

Political Participation Matters
Jenn concludes by underlining that an integral part of ensuring women’s safety involves societal and political engagement. Voting is crucial as it directly affects women’s rights and safety, influencing the cultural perception of women’s autonomy. By participating in the political process, we help shape a future where all women are as safe and free as possible.

Key Takeaways

  1. Heightened Awareness
    Through exercises like considering life from a man’s perspective for a day, we can better understand different gendered experiences, promote awareness of inequalities, and empower women to assert their confidence without fear.
  2. Intuition and Preparedness
    The Sensei Scan empowers women to tap into their intuition and enhance their situational awareness. Preemptively scanning environments can predict and prevent potentially harmful situations.
  3. Active Participation and Self-Defense
    Cultivating self-defense skills and engaging in political processes are critical. Physical preparation through self-defense builds confidence, while political engagement ensures autonomy and a safer tomorrow for all women.

Jenn invites feedback and connections through her social media channels and emphasizes the empowering transformation that sharing and channeling rage into positive action can bring. In these uncertain times, standing together and supporting each other is essential to ensure safety and reclaim power in all aspects of life.

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