Episode 63 – Episode Empathy and Humor: Tips for Men Supporting Menopausal Partners with Matt Hyams

Have you ever wished your partner truly “got it” when perimenopause, mental load, and everyday stress hit?

In this episode, I welcome Matt Hyams as the first male guest in Art of Badassery history, a comedian whose perimenopause videos went viral by helping women feel seen through humor, empathy, and honest communication. Matt shares how a “Tips for Men Whose Wives Are Going Through Perimenopause” video unexpectedly exploded into millions of views, how reposting and following “cosmic breadcrumbs” led to more viral wife-themed content (including Mel Robbins reposting one), and why reading comments has shown him the deeper impact. We talk about common partner mistakes, the need for patience and self-awareness, and what’s next for Matt, including a podcast with his wife, Nicole, tentatively titled “Whatever, It’s Fine.” 

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Introduction

Welcome to a unique episode of the Art of Badassery Podcast, where humor meets deep introspection. Hosted by Chief Badassery Officer Jenn Cassetta, this episode marks a significant milestone with the first male guest in the history of the show—comedian Matt Himes. Known for his viral videos on perimenopause, Matt joins Jenn to delve into how humor can bridge gaps, foster empathy, and spark crucial conversations on women’s health and beyond.

A Comedian’s Journey to Virality

During the episode, Matt shares how his hilarious portrayals of perimenopausal life resonated with countless women across the globe. His videos, initially created for comedic relief, unexpectedly became a source of empathy, validation, and laughter for many. As Matt recounts, behind the humor lies a deeper message of understanding and communication, essential elements in navigating life’s complexities.

The Importance of Empathy and Laughter

Matt discusses the delicate balance between being a partner who listens and supports while navigating the unpredictable world of relationships and hormonal changes. His humor serves as a catalyst for opening up difficult conversations, reminding us all to find lightness amidst chaos and to not take ourselves too seriously.

Invaluably Honest Reflections

Throughout the podcast, Matt reflects on personal experiences, offering insights into both the challenges and joys of living alongside hormonal shifts. His portrayal as a husband striving to understand and support his wife, Nicole, highlights the universal theme of wanting to do better and love more deeply.

Top Three Takeaways

  1. Laughter as a Tool for Connection
    Humor can disarm defensiveness and encourage more open, honest conversations about difficult topics. It’s a reminder of the power of laughter in building bridges and opening minds.
  2. Understanding Through Empathy
    Matt’s journey illustrates the importance of empathy in relationships. By stepping into someone else’s shoes, you can create a more compassionate and understanding partnership.
  3. The Role of Self-Awareness
    Both in humor and life, awareness of oneself and one’s partner plays a critical role in maintaining a healthy dynamic. Understanding personal triggers and boundaries can transform how partners interact during challenging times.

Conclusion

This episode challenges traditional norms by showcasing how humor can address serious topics and bring people closer together. Jenn Cassetta and Matt Himes illuminate the need for more inclusive conversations around women’s health, using humor as a powerful tool for change. Through their dialogue, listeners are encouraged to approach life, relationships, and personal growth with curiosity, humor, and a willingness to understand.

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About Matt Hyams

A comedy writer, comedian, content creator, and husband to an entrepreneurial perimenopausal wife, he unexpectedly found his comedy niche after a viral Instagram video offering “tips for men whose wives are going through perimenopause” gained millions of views and landed features in publications including People. Known for hilariously impersonating his wife and spotlighting the realities of relationships, entrepreneurship, mental load, and perimenopause, his content resonates deeply with women around the world who see themselves reflected in his characters. Beyond social media, he is an accomplished stand-up comedian and comedy writer whose half-hour TV pilot, On the Line, won Stage 32’s 4th Annual TV Comedy Screenwriting Competition, with satire featured in McSweeney’s and other publications. He also collaborates with brands, media outlets, and organizations to create sharp, human, and relatable conversations around relationships, wellbeing, and modern culture, while also serving as a satirical business keynote speaker and creator of the parody platform Ego-Baby and the podcast The Only Advice You Need.

Learn more about Matt Hyams at https://www.matthyams.com/